Who likes being plain old simple plain Jane?
Or plain ol' Tom, Dick or Harry?
As I write this, I'm brought back to the time when I wrote my entry letter for graduate school. I remember writing about the field of psychology. I had this birds eye view of the world and of society; I looked down at the people around and had started my paper with" We exist in a world where individuals feel like they're in a rat race in which there is no way they can ever really win...." I saw the rush, the hurry, the starvation for being "it" for being "louder", "cooler" "funnier", more successful, more resilient......MORE, stronger, better, different!
How exhausting is that?
When things get exhausting it's only natural to feel like "wake me up when I'm famous", it's too much right now. When I'm all figured out, when I'm strong and different I can come out there!
You may have a goal you're working towards.
Maybe you're in the midsts of figuring out who you are, navigating a relationship, defining a carer or finishing up with school. You may be answering some tough questions boggling your mind or are in the middle of a project at work you're needing to finish. You may be wanting to lower your anxiety around others...
I so respect setting goals, having a bigger mindset, acquiring a crystal clear viewpoint.Setting goals is necessary for movement in life, and kicks stagnation to the side!
I'm also aware that some things take a bit longer than a few hours, days or maybe even months to change.
While you're n the process of harnessing a new skill, a bright insight, a fresh way of being, you're learning a deep wisdom that comes along with the process of expanding and contracting.
There's an inherent beauty in that specific process of change.
Let me explain. Say you want to lose 20 lbs. You will create a combination of what you need. You'll first get clear on what your goal is. What has worked and what's been stopping you from getting "there". You may introduce a new way relating to your relationship with food, possibly adding mindfulness to your eating behaviors , and implementing more physical movement. You'll become more cognizant about the ways you've been nurturing your body.
Is the goal 20lbs thinner? Absolutely. Do you freak out and want to hide ever day until you hit that 20 lbs goal? Maybe! Maybe you do want to hide and come out when you've "arrived", when you feel that thinner feeling of being in your body, or to come back and engage with life when youre "already there", whatever your goal is.
At the same time, is it fair to have the today, the passage of time, and the route to your destination be stolen from you?
What about the slow wisdom...
The exchange of thoughts...
The intricate nuances of knowledge you get to know along the way..
The people you meet...
The parts of you that were hidden...
The newfound ideas and pathways you're getting to know as you strengthen parts of yourself as you move along?
Is that fair to you? To the little sparkles today has to offer?
Theres a quote that reads "slow down to the speed of wisdom" .
Yes, darling. Slow down. Life sometimes feels like we'll get run over by a bulldozer if we don't keep moving moving moving. t's almost like once we get ourselves into a vision, into a goal, we think the way to get there is by "speeding"; getting into that race car and gooooo!
What if no one mention the warning signs of goals of "big" dreams, big hopes or big aspirations? Or of "smaller" ones, being a happier person, acquiring an inner calm,worrying les or feeling more hopeful. What about the work of defining a sense of self, being a better friend, partner, mom or dad, a more responsible student or more positive person to be around?
I wonder if life would be simpler if things came with directions or warning signs. Some that would say "Road clear ahead', others that would say "Danger, Danger, Danger" and other that would say "Rocky roads, yet totally doable" and maybe even some that would say "Treasure awaits you, keep going" , or "Amp up your courage, this will be a long ride". The thing is though, we seldom get those kind of tips, warning or even pamphlets for the way.
Know why? Well, because even when others share their wisdom, their experience, their tips, there's no way another person can protect you from your own journey.
This is your own "figuring this all-out-ness"
You know what, there's actually a joy in that. Each person has their own creativity and wisdom in getting through, in reaching the places they need to get to. Others have found incredibly amazing directives, ideas and passages that I would have never thought of.
And that's why, my darling, I ask you to remember to slow down, to the speed of your wisdom. Of the quiet hush that gently sweeps over you after a good cry. The clarity within after the long harrowing night of questions. The feeling of unknown after a "blah" kind of day that slowly settles into "I'll find my way, one step at time".
Things ebb and flow. Life has its rhythm. Big knotty questions slowly start unraveling and wisdom begins to peek through. The dim light has its way of echoing as it begins to make headway into your day as it slowly beams a bit brighter. Your backbone begins to strengthen and the earth beneath starts steadying as you move one foot in front of the other.
One step. Two steps. Progress. As you're in the passage of the rhythm, of answering your current questions, in working upward on that ladder to your "there", I encourage you to slow down.
Lean in. Be wise. Own your own unique self that is slowly being built. Slowly begin to define. You got this.
I know its sometimes scary and it won't feel like"I got this" most of the time--But hey, you're already famous. Fame isn't something that happens overnight.
You become famous when you stand in your unique humility, power, knowledge and individuality.
Hold that confidence, when your voice shakes with fear but you keep keep talking, holding onto the vision of where you're headed.
These are the kind of people this world needs.
A bunch of plain Janes realizing they are the farthest thing from "plain".
You've got you and your awesomeness.
Now go and put that crown on :)