What is success? What defines you as a successful person or as a less-than-successful person?
A popular topic in my office is figuring out the struggle of "reaching success", whatever that may mean. It may be feeling better about ones sense of self, defining a career path, being a more loving mom to your child/ren, or finding and nurturing relationships. Others may be working toward a professional or personal internal goal that would make them feel better about themselves.
I've been asked, more than a handful of times, how I define success. Anyone who has met me knows that I'm all about movement and progress but not at the price of your sanity. I lean into the definition in a gentle yet curious fashion. Your success is a completely different reality and has such different flavor than the person right in front, behind or beside you on the train of life.
I do believe that all adults can build a beautiful life of successful dreams, playing them out into reality by setting small attainable goals over time. You may say, "That sounds glorious Esther, but for people like me, who struggle so much, is that even possible? I'm such a mess!". To you I say a resounding "Yes, YES it is! You don't need to have already been "successful" or have all your ducks lined up to taste success in your life. Let's help you become someone who CAN start feeling successful, one small step at a time.
Now, Let's get curious about what success means.
Success does not mean the poster image of what success might mean to society for you at your age. I do not expect you to be in that perfect relationships, be that perfect child, create that perfect home or have the perfect job. I also do not expect of you to have a perfectly defined sense of self. No, no no I am not the perfectionistic monster of critical town and I'd hope you aren't that to yourself either.
I'd like to invite you to understand success differently.
Success means creating a change from what was there before. A small change or a big change. Shift = moving upward.
In order to be successful you will first need to: